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When the toilet paper ends… get creative

Dealing with unexpected problems
Based on Real Life Story

You have to catch a plane in less than 10 minutes! Hurry up, dude! But, wait, where are you? You are in a toilet cubicle… sited. You are actually having a shit on an airport toilet. ‘Fortunately, there’s enough toilet paper… hehe. No, wait… OMG, the toilet paper ended and I have to catch the plane!’ What do you do in these types of situations?

GET CREATIVE!!

You had your goal and it was perfectly planned. You only had to take a quick shit and catch the damn plane. It was easy. But sometimes – and only sometimes… – life doesn’t exactly adjust to our plans and reality hits us on the face.

When unexpected problems appear life it’s not about having the perfect clean shit, but about catching the plane, even if it hurts at first.

Some situations when plans won’t work and you’ll need to be creative:

• Meeting someone.
• Partying.
• Any big project you can think of.
• Traveling.
• Fighting.

Can you think of any other situations? Speak up.

Ways to get creative, don’t limit yourself:

1. Grab the first idea that comes into your mind. Remember that you don’t have much time.
2. Continue linking ideas until something clicks.
3. Trust your intuition.
4. Act.
5. Learn from the experience.

Well, how did that toilet dude solve the problem? (you know, it wasn’t me, it was a friend ;]). He got creative and grabbed all the cellulose that was there. That included a toilet paper roll and a newspaper. You can imagine the rest. Hilarious? I know, but sometimes shit doesn’t go your way and you have to move on, pain included. Share this story if you’ve liked it!

 

Stop talking, lead by example

“Talk Does Not Cook Rice” Chinese proverb

Have you ever tried to make someone do something and get nothing? Have you ever presented yourself saying things you think are impressive and people were indifferent? At this day and age, people are bombarded with a huge amount of information. The power of word (alone) is useless now, unless you are the owner of a large TV channel. What’s left? The power of facts. People can’t avoid, discuss or reject facts, not for a long time.

Why should you stop talking?

I’m sure you know a lot of people who almost only talk about: what they can do, what they did, what they will do, what they have, why they are right… I could continue because, as you can see, the list includes a large variety of topics, but I’ll leave the rest to your imagination. Do you really think all these people actually do big things with their life? Do you think they are living their dreams? Obviously not. However, they get a lot of social validation from playing the victim role, they are lifelong experts on manipulation. BTW, I don’t have anything against these people, they are just living a reality that is dictated but everyone but themselves. It’s OK, most people don’t have the conscience, the leverage and the courage that takes to walk the self-actualisation path. Don’t blame them, just don’t fall in the same trap.

When you live life like that, you are trapped in a loop. A loop, in behavioural terms, is a series of habits that we end up doing unconsciously, very often in the same order, because you are  getting something out of it. It could be validation, pleasure, ego inflation… anything. It’s a script, a viral program you run unconsciously. If you get lost in the talking loop, you won’t start doing anything except there is some external force that leads you. You never dictate your reality.

There’s only one thing in the world that results more annoying to me than a person without opinion, and that is somebody who always has to express his/her point of view about everything. One of the reasons because I think is annoying is that I myself tend to do that. You probably know a lot of stuff, you have lived a lot of things. Yes, it can be true. Even so, you don’t need to be telling it every damn time. We live in information age, Google exists. If they really want to know what you have to say they will ask. Or is it that you want to get validation from it? Help someone only if you feel like doing it.

When did humanity lost the good habit of talking for the sake of talking? People should stop talking life so seriously and do only what is necessary. The rest should be just for fun. My mate Matt (I know, it seems like a tongue twister) has nailed it with this article.

When there is a important group decision to make, it’s not about not talking, but about talking less. In those serious time, it’s when you should talk serious. Everyone will talk a lot, hold yourself back and think of something that would be useful and will result. Make sure when you talk serious is quality. That’s something I’ve had applied to quite a few important things that need to get done by a work group.

Why should you lead by example?

While most people will be talking about why they aren’t at the level they should be you will be moving forward and taking action. You will be getting things done and forging the legend. Guess who has way bigger success?

Those that surround you will rely on you on tough times. Trust me on this one, when you stop talking and focus on doing things you will get this reputation of the guy who achieves things, even if you don’t talk about it. Well, better said: because you don’t talk about it. When it’s needed others will give you the leadership position. I’ve seen this happen over and over on myself and others. Again, people will sometimes trust words, but will always finally trust facts.

Most people don’t have courage to do things, they need someone who walks the path first. They are used to live life on autopilot. Even when they are asked about random questions, if they can, they’ll wait as spectators until someone takes a decision. Those who take that decision are conditioning themselves to be one of the influences in the world. They will inspire people with their acts, they’ll be the example to follow.

How to stop talking and lead by example?

I have to say it won’t be an instant change. But hopefully, with my advice you can speed up the process.

1. Have goals.
2. Talk less about yourself.
3. Focus only on the quality of your work.
4. Stop comparing yourself to others.
5. Let go.
6. Remember that this is the first day of a life worth living.
   
7. Recognize (don’t judge) the talking loops in yourself and others.
8. Stop taking life and yourself so seriously.
9. Enjoy life.
10. If you want to talk seriously, talk seriously, but say only what is important.

Finally, let people discover what you do. Let them be interested in you, don’t spoil the mystery. From now on, stop talking and lead by example.

 

Drastic Change in Your Life

Everyday Happiness and Fulfillment.

If you have ever tried to change your life drastically and couldn’t, don’t worry. You are not alone. Maybe you wanted to lose weight, become more social or make more money doing something you like. At first you were excited, you felt on top of the world, then you felt like you couldn’t stick to your plan and you reminded yourself how much you suck.  It’s a pattern a lot of people get into, they have the leverage to make a decision but don’t know how to plan things and they fail. Consider this my ultimate guide for drastic changes in life.

Why most people fail to change their lifes?
It’s not bad motivation, it’s bad planning.

• They stop dreaming.
• Short-term thinking.
• Relying on willpower.
• Bad planning.
• Not knowing what they are capable of.

Inicial excitement

If you keep that initial excitement you will achieve success and hapiness, no doubt. If you trust it at the beginning you will crash at the beginning.

This is what I talked about in a past article (http://ivanperezs.wordpress.com/the-passion-of-life/). I’m sure you have experienced the loop I talked about at the beggining of this post a few times. At first that feeling is independent, they get excited because of the end goal. Then, they start to say to themselves ‘you can only feel like this is you do this huge amount of work’, they get trapped in the results game.

The initial excitement is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, you can’t get your dreams if you don’t find your passions. Success doesn’t bring happiness, happiness doesn’t bring success. However, if you combine wisely both action and passion you will have success in the long run and happiness right now. On the other hand, it will confuse you and make you think you can do everything. You will set big short-term goals. Maybe you can accomplish them two or three days, but then you can’t.

The initial excitement made you feel on top of the world, the fall was painful. Why is this? Pain and pleasure, the twins you must control if you want to make a change.

Passion is the same as loads of pleasure, that’s why you have to keep the initial excitement. How?

Make sure your goal is your dream. It has to excite you just by thinking of it.

Think of that dream most of the time. It should be the first thing and the last thing you think about in the day. You should be actually dreaming about it during the night.

As you are taking action, remember your dream.  Get excited.

Reward yourself. Every action you take, no matter how small it is, should be celebrated.

Remind yourself how much you rock for taking action.

Forget about results at first.

Don’t link pain to your goals or to talking action. If you feel like a goal is something arduous, difficult, that you can’t do, you are linking bad feelings to doing it. You are sabotaging yourself.

Pressure or willpower only link more bad feelings. Even if you achieve your short-term goal, if you keep relying on them to get things done you will quit within days.

How to plan your change?

1. Start small. Your first goals should be something you think it’s too easy.
2. Do less, do better. Limit the number of things you do for your goal each day. Zen To Done (http://zenhabits.net) is a system that works well for me and a lot of people.
3. Focus. Focus is a powerful tool. You shouldn’t be focusing on results, on what action you don’t take, on what you don’t have… but you should be really on what you do towards your goals.
4. Think long-term. Set and plan at least one year goals.
5. Include in your planning time so you can link good feelings to action and your dream.
6. Have time for yourself. Take it easy, reward yourself with fun.
7. Form successful habits.

Punishing yourself, setting way too big goals, wanting to do too much, losing the motivation because it wasn’t your dream, just going through the motions… there’s a long list of things like that you will find in your journey. It takes responsibility and work to come again to the right path. Now, tell me, what is your dream?

 

Minimalistic Fast Learning #1: Uncluttering Information

Or how to understand what the teacher says without going mad trying

“The ten thousand questions are one question. If you cut through the one question, then the ten thousand questions disappear.” Zen proverb

If you are a student or you simply are planning to learn something and you don’t want to spent countless hours trying to memorize things, this article is definitive for you. I call this series of posts Minimalistic Fast Learning for two reasons. First off, the Minimalistic points that this model for learning forgets about useless stuff and gets to the core of the information; secondly, is Fast because you only focus on the important things, because just enough is JUST ENOUGH. And yes, it gets incredible results. Paradoxically, you get way better results with less effort.

Why I call this chapter ‘Uncluttering Information’

There is a phenomenon about home organization going around. I am myself an amateur unclutterer. If you didn’t know about uncluttering, start by reading this. As you could see, basically, uncluttering is about getting rid of the clutter, not only in your house, but also in every area of your life.

What has Unclutering Information got to do with learning fast? Everything. Although there are are really good teachers that will hammer into your mind the principles and actually teach you the righ way, the sad truth is there are not a lot of this teachers. Most teachers will spent classes spreading disorganized and totally out of context information.

The Golden Rule

If this series of articles could be summarized in just one sentence, that would be focus on understanding, not remembering.

In fact, all I’m telling here apart from that is just how I deal with the topic, but if you understand that rule you could come up with your own personal system. Do you want to know how I approach Minimalistic Fast Learning? Awesome, keep reading then.

Life, and exams won’t be an exception, are dynamic. You don’t know what situations you are going to be asked, or what you will need to remember. So don’t remember anything, at least not on purpose. A basic trigonometry example:

You could memorize this:

0 = 0°	π/6 = 30°	π/4 = 45°	π/3 = 60°	π/2 = 90°
sin θ	0	1/2	√2 / 2	√3 / 2	1
cos θ	1	√3 / 2	√2 / 2	1/2	0
tan θ	0	√3 / 3	1	√3	undef.

Source.

OR you could squeeze your mind a little and put your grey matter on work. The steps would be:

1. What does this all mean?

You first need to have a notion of everything. You ask yourself what is that table about, and you discover it is about common acute angles ratios. Then you need to know what is a sine, a cosine and a tangent.

2. What are the connections?

Sine, cosine and tangent are related. And each trig ratio means something.

3. Is there anything I already know that I can relate to these?

So, thinking and thinking you end up relating this to real triangles. And instead of learning the ratios, you understand how to find each by knowing what means. A rectangular triangle which minor article is 30º, a equilateral triangle and a rectangular triangle. But this is not maths class and I’m getting off the topic. You get the picture.

Processing Information

Another skill you need to unclutter information is to actually unclutter information ;]. You need to discriminate between useful and not useful information. For example, in that sentence you could only read the underlined words and still get the information.

You need to discriminate between useful and not useful information.

We’ve uncluttered the sentence in a 70% percent without losing important information. Imagine all the things you need to ‘study’ reduced to its 30%. I will write another article on underlining, but this serves as an introduction.

Cool things that will help you:

• Doing mental summaries, and extracting just the core idea instantly.
• Knowing what’s useful and what not fast.
• Working with models.
• Reading ‘Learn more, Study less’
• Analyzing and structuring ideas.
• Thinking in lists and diagrams.

Do you want more?

Don’t worry, in the next months I’m going to write 3 or 4 posts about my personal approach to learning, because it’s giving me amazing results with almost no time. I’m not sure how I’m going to organize the next posts of this series, so if you have particular interest in one topic, or you have some doubts you want me to cover on the next post make sure to comment. If you don’t mind the order, make sure to check the blog often or simply suscribe if you find it more convenient ;].

Update: Check out Matt’s article about Speed Learning on Life of Matt

 

8 Ways to Learn From Someone

How to have a role model and actually learn something from it.

Have you ever admired somebody? I bet that at anything you tried to learn and master you watched carefully at those who did it way better than you. Everybody admires someone, everybody has a few role models. This is because of the human natural tendency to improve and feel fulfilled.

But having role models is not enough, you should actually ‘use them’ (I know how silly that sounds) and get something good from it. Focusing on people that are more advanced than you – your role models – will be intuitive after reading this. Let me help you.

Credit Oberazzi.

I’ll give you a few tips on ‘how to use’ a role model so you learn faster:

1. Watch. This is probably the easiest, yet the most important one, thing you can do to learn from your role model. Watch so you know what they’re capable of do and you can have a direction to go. Set goals based on what you watch.
2. Compare. Mastery is about little, subtle things. Don’t look for the tricks. Instead, watch your role model execute the basics and compare it to how you do it. Anyone can do a trick, but mastery is about the basics.
3. Ask. If you are too good to ask for help and advice, forget learning. Do you have a problem? Don’t beat your head against the wall. There’s a lot of people in this world who have walked the path before you, and had a similar problem – if not the same. The clever thing to do is to ask, to make yourself a fool and admit that you can’t do it right now. Ask them for help, they will give you advice that will save you a lot of time.
4. Tell. Instead of asking, you can also talk with them about the subject you both are passionate about. Thus, you will have a new friend who you will enjoy talking to. As you are talking you will inevitably say how you do something. Don’t be afraid, if you give an ‘I want to learn’ vibe he or she will notice it and the role model will rock your world with tons of things you can improve. A master sees in a second thousands of things that a newbie can improve.
5. Show. Say to your role model that you want to show him or her what you can do and that you want some advice. Execute the thing. It’s similar – but better – to the tip above.
6. Give. If you ‘are friends’ with your role model because you see him/her as a means to you learning you won’t get anything in the long-term. Don’t think about how can them help you. Help them, in a real authentic way, they will return because, you know what?, most people are really nice and kind ;].
7. Understand. With all the advice, with everything you see, try to form strong principles. Try to understand what is more important and what works in each situation. This you will create a value system, that is like a personal role model.
8. Imitate. Repeat exactly what they until you do something very similar. If you doubt, continue to repeat.

Those are the principles I apply to my learning and to teach. If you want more information on the topic start by reading my mate’s post The Law of Average Joes and then get the book Mastery, by George Leonard. Next time you admire someone apply these principles and you will get so good, if not more, than that person. And remember that, as my sifu says: ‘You can learn from everybody. I learn even from a white belt.’

Do you have any other ideas about the proper use of a role model? Write them in the comments section!

 

Social Tools #1: Bring The Bizarreness

The Bizarreness is probably my favourite social tool and the first of an unlimited series of simple short blogs with useful social tips that you can apply instantly.

Credit StrangeInterlude

What is The Bizarreness, Iván?

The Bizarreness is basically bringing to the interaction something that is too weird to be not-funny and that is totally clear that you do it on purpose. It instantly makes everyone around start reacting to you, now you lead the interaction.

Rules:

• The more bizarre, the more you have to believe in it.
• The more bizarre, the more fun it is.
• The more bizarre, the more confused and reactive people become.
• The more bizarre, the cooler you are.
• The more bizarre, the more you lead.

Examples:

- Someone is trying to make fun of you, but in a friendly way (if not, the bizarre is to cut that person off):

Someone: “I think you are very silly, how can you not know that?”
YOU: “IME, the economy is going downfall, in 10 years we will be walking around like Tarzan.”
Someone (totally confused, now he or she is the one feeling silly): “What are you talking about?”
YOU: “Me Tarzan, you Cheeta.”

Now from there transition if you want to a normal conversation like before, the difference is that now, you are the one leading it. We were obviously not talking about economy first, it could be sports, films or anything.

- You are chilling with your friends on a Saturday night:

Friend 1: “Have you studied for the exam we are having on Monday?
Friend 2: “No.”
Friend 3: “Me neither, I will have to study tomorrow, although I will be tired with all this party…”

Now it’s time to drop some out of context quote. My favourites are from The Simpsons, Family Guy, House or some rock song. Every starts laughing and stops thinking.

This same example would serve for when any conversation stalls and everybody is in silence, just drop a quote. One of my favourites, multi-purpose quotes is from Peter Griffin:
“When you’re feeling down just go to Imagination Land! Where you fart when you burp, and you burp when you fart!”

Other uses

Another use of the Bizarreness is in the way you express yourself in social nets like facebook and things like that. Fill everything on your profile with Bizarreness. Also take bizarre photos with your friends, you will have fun a lot of fun with it.

You can also wear the Bizarreness. Take something that is fashionable, not weird itself, and make it bizarre. For example: funny t-shirts with texts and pics are a must. You should have several in your closet. Also, if someone laughs about something you are wearing, make what they are saying a reality and exaggerate it. Make it even more weird. What I do a lot of times is to say that they are right, it’s not cool and then take it off. The next thing is to put it on again in the most weird you know, when in doubt just put it the wrong side. Examples of this are a cap, glasses, shirts, trousers and shoes. Remember that the more bizarre the more you have to believe it is the right thing to do. If you do it like that you are the coolest one, if you don’t you are the weirdest. This is basically exaggerated weird self-deprecating humour that only a cool, smart dude would say.

One thing that helped me a lot was to realize that I was a weird dude. Then, I started to be proud of it and the Bizarreness was born. This is about having personality, showing that you are unique and you love you. Remember that the most important thing with the bizarre is that you have to express yourself, not try to impress people. What are you expressing? You express that you don’t give a damn what people think about you, that you are weird and you like it. No, like is not the word… love, yes, you love yourself and that what you are communicating.

Also, if you are like me, you could add sexual content in the interaction. With my friends and with girls I just have the habit of voicing my thought when it’s not a work conversation, so as a lot of my thoughts are sexual I just pop them out. Sexual Bizarreness is good because sex is taboo for a lot of people.

The Bizarreness is something that serves a lot of purposes. When do you bring the Bizarreness?

• To change topics.
• To get everyone out of thinking mode.
• To have fun.
• To be the one leading the interaction, if you can stay cool with bringing the bizarreness everyone else will be confused.
• To show anyone else and yourself that you don’t care about making mistakes and eclipse mistakes you may commit later.
• To show your uniqueness.
• To get into social mode.

Use it in your next social interaction, be careful it may cause addiction.

 

Gamer vs. Player, the great distinction. Which are you?

Every single one of you, in terms of motivation fits in one of those groups. Sure, you can be both but you tend to be more of one than the other. To know which one you are in, just ask yourself ‘why do I go out?’.

OK, soundtrack:

Gamers will answer something like: I want to practise my routines and moves, I want to get better reactions. Maybe they say it in a subtler way, something like: ‘I want to improve my game’ ‘I want to make it consistent’ ‘I want to learn natural game’ and so on and so forth. There are some guys who actually have these goals when they go out but they don’t give a fuck, literally, if they achieve them or not. They set these goals because they like the game and want to stay motivated, but for most of you reading that is a sign of being a gamer.

OTOH, players love the game, simply. Not the moves, the logistics, the girls, the results… they just love the chase. Players (aka sexworthy men) are closers and have learned that the fun is in the chase. They don’t practise their game, they just play it. They don’t give a shit if they fail sometimes, they are men and take all the responsibility for their reality.

Gamers have game, these are the guys that you see who almost never get rejected and made the groups laugh, they may get a flakey number.

Players are those guys that sometimes you will laugh at how many times they get rejected, with this guys girls can’t play their games, this guys are the epitome of authenticity. They go hard with their intent, they rely on themselves, they may get rejected but that’s nothing for them. With players, when it’s on… it’s fucking on.

Gamers can turn a woman on emotionally, maybe they can manipulate a woman to game them, hoping that she will escalate, extract and jump on their dicks.

Players love the action, you just can’t control them. When a woman chooses to involve with a guy like this she can relax because she knows he’s taking the responsibility for him and her getting laid.

Gamers analyse every set and measure their results to see how they can improve their game, they think about interactions (A LOT). They put tons of energy on learning, forgetting why this is called a game.

Players usually don’t have to think about sets. This champ gets blown out and a second later you see him clawing a girl, smiling almost arrogantly. They don’t try to learn, they just play the game while they learn trough experience, joining the dots unconsciously, they know things intuitively. They understands the principle of consistency, not perfection. A player doesn’t mind if he gets blown 20 times in a row the same night, this changes nothing and he is still a high value guy, he know that he only needs one set to hook to get laid.

Gamers work a lot on their game, so much that they think this is enough.

Players pass the gaming part and start at the closing part. In the first seconds of the interaction he either gets blown out or he’s making out with the girl (or another hardcore form of escalation).

The internal value of a gamer depends on the quality of their game that night.

The player measures his success by his ability to close the deal, he does what he wants when he wants, he has his own rhythm. This guy understands that at the beginning of the night every man starts equal, that to quote the amazing Kimball “the difference comes not from ‘being good with girls,’ but from your ability to take responsibility for what happens around you”, that he actually wins for taking action.

You will see the gamer dude thinking about their next approach or what’s worst: thinking about their past approaches. He plays to not loose.

You will see the player playing, he wants to have the ball and go. This guys plays to win.

The first guy is so inside his head he doesn’t have fun and has to fake smiles and state. He may try to get instate to get attraction.

With the second nothing is fake, he’s 100% real and congruent, he has fun. He gets in state by playing the game, his state is unbreakable.

The gamer dood gets cool reactions, the player gets laid.

One is impression mode, the other is only expressing himself, his intent and core, he’s being the music. He goes out only for himself, he’s the star of the show.

Part Two of the Article: The “INSERT COIN” Phenomenon.

After some months of succesfull player nights in a row, getting insta make-outs everywhere which (at that time) for me was mind blowing and I felt like the pimp of da world. Ego trap came after, and that was the beggining of the Project Venom, which I hope you know about. Although I started taking responsibility, I fell in the gamer category, I started to work in my game. While before I was succesful with no game at all, now I was working on my game, no girl and very little successes.

Which made me change from one thing to the other? The real difference between gamers and players, the root was that as the great jlaix say in the Jeffy Show, the different comes from the meanings and bearings you choose.

As you may notice, the last two blog posts I made were about ‘enjoying’ and ‘passion’. That is, positive things. I think that the two most powerful tools in life for changing and creating anything are focus and linking instant positive feelings to something.

I might make a blog on this two things someday, although a lot of motivational authors talk about it in one way or another. I’ll just say something briefly.

1. You get what you focus on aka ‘the Law of Attraction’, although that seems very hairy fairy.
2. Even if you know something is going to cause you problems on the long-term you will do it if you know that provides you instant pleasure, and you will need a lot of will power to avoid doing it.

When I started doing approaches again through a lot of will power, not for fun at all, one of my best female friends made a joke. She said: “INSERT COIN pirirí 1, 2, 3, avance” (you know I’m Spanish so…). At first I didn’t realize that she could center myself in field with this.

I started thinking ‘I should link positive feelings with the most important thing, with what I have to implement. For me the most important thing at the momment was, and still is, taking responsibility for me an the girl getting laid. So I started to link fun to action. And the phrase came to me, I’m sure I read it here: THE FUN IS IN THE CHASE. A lot of people here are having trouble with being the prize and all that stuff. I’ll repeat it: THE FUN IS IN THE CHASE. Those words could change your life, don’t worry you will be chased when you have true abundance, but true abundance is constructed through action. Don’t act prize and cocky, just be authentic.

She kept doing this everytime I did this. Getting hugely blown out by turbos was again fun, thank you darling. Now, me and my friends go out to INSERT COIN. We maid the shift and have linked positive feelings and fun to the game and chasing girls. We are now, officialy players.

Do you wanna help me extend the INSERT COIN PHENOMENON world wide and join the Insert Coin Club. The rules are clear:

1. Shout INSERT COIN! and make as if you were inserting the coin on the girl.
2. Claw the girl.
3. Rapid kino escalation.
4. Have fun with it.
5. Repeat until getting laid.

;]

 

Old Articles #3: The PASSION of LIFE. Energy frequencies and Self-esteem

Today’s talk is about a pretty abstract thing. I’m describing a special type of state, a state I found is the best for me. Yeah, I know, you are thinking “awesome, if I have that state girls will jump on my dick”. FORGET THAT, I want you to be selfish and really focus on what you want and in how you wanna feel.

What is your dream?

Close your eyes, really focus on it until you find something that really moves you. It’s not a goal, it’s just a dream.

If your reasons for having that dream are not 100% selfish they don’t count. When I say selfish I mean that just by thinking of it it fulfills you, it gives you a sense of deep happiness and power and you fucking love DOING IT, working towards it. Not getting it, but walking the path.

Tim recent posts on being your hero and his living plan are a perfect example of it.

Have you found your dream? Does it make every fuckin’ cell of your body feel alive and it deeply moves you. Is that dream for you?

The Energy Frequency

Hopefully you’ve just had a glance of the state I’m talking about. That inner feeling, how does it feel? I bet it feels awesome.

I believe there’s a sort of subcommunication channel that is based on energy, your states communicates instantly about you more than you think. This level of communication is a direct product of the way you live your life. Yeah, you can feel awesome sometimes and it has nothing to do with your life, or you can be sad sometimes. But it’s mostly a by product of that.

Come back to remember, or relive, the feeling. Imagine how your life would be if you felt like that 24/7.

I was going to say what prevents that feeling but there’s a lot of ego talk out there and I have nothing more to say. Check out PON (The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle) for more. Ego is what prevents it, but what about what creates it? YOU. Yes, you created it a while ago, it was you. Now you know you have the power.

100% RESPONSIBILITY

How do you feel about the idea of having 100% responsibility of something? Does it feel painful? Change it, because that means 100% of power and control. Learn to attain good instant feelings to responsibility.

If you want this state consistently you must take all the responsibility, he he, good times ahead.

I like to call this state THE PASSION OF LIFE, because it’s the same as living fully alive and it’s like having passion. Others call it self-esteem. It’s natural and it will be there every time you need it. In fact, there’s no reason not to feel like that 24/7.

Imagine if you applied this state to your career, relationships, training, finances, everything in your life. I guarantee that you can do really magic with it, it’s the state where everything in this life that is beautiful comes from.

ACTION!

Enough talk, it’s time for some action. Start small, but start today. Immerse yourself again into your dream, do one thing, just one thing. You’ll want to do a lot, stop yourself and do just one thing today. Do little and learn to love it, the most important thing is not to attain anything negative to it.

While you are doing the action feel the dream and get excited.

In a few weeks you’ll be consistent and you will feel really fucking good.

Tell me how it goes for you and good luck with your self-actualization.

 

Old Articles #2: Enjoying. The ULTIMATE Frontier.

I wanna add my little piece of value to this awesome Nation we have here. I want to talk about a trait that every natural I’ve seen has. This is the mindset I implemented this last weeks, and it’s the direct infield result of my Flawless Natural Living Plan.

I’m not an instructor and the RSD stuff are the real deal at teaching this stuff, I just want to share my OWN experiences.

I also have found that you don’t need to enjoy to get laid, if you are in a bad mood but you are used to go through the motions and have the confidence enough to push through it you still can get away with it. As they say, the strongest reality wins. But now that we are on the game, why don’t we make it fun from the start.

Let’s get to it.

Enjoying and the full natural way

See this? Tim talked in the FN program about this, about the “this is for me” phenomenon. He says that you should allow that purpose to fuel your approaches. I say, why don’t you use it to use fuel you from the open to the lay?

I can’t explain why but this mindset works for me, and I’m sure it will work for you. Basically, you should allow yourself to enjoy the girl in front of you, and every girl you see. Filling yourself up with the feminine energy around you.

I call this “the full natural way”. Think about the classic natural, the real deal, not the jerk that gets laid. I’m talking about the natural that girls close. He is getting laid consistently, he has abundance of women on his life, he’s sure of himself and carry himself like the star of the show. And more importantly, he doesn’t have to think to do this things, he can concentrate on his passions.

As he doesn’t need to think, he allows himself to enjoy the girl he’s with. This makes him moves things toward sex UNCONSCIOUSLY.

(From Spanish TV, don’t they look sexy?)

Not gaming

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not talking about another style of game. I’m talking about not game itself. Think about it. Amazing man meets amazing woman, things just lead toward the close. If this wasn’t like that, we wouldn’t survive as a species.

So if things are like that, and I really believe they are, this headspace is veeery, and I mean VERY, simple. Remember the Natural we talked about? We’ll just call him Dan for this time. (His real name is Iván, but don’t tell anyone) Now, seriously…

What is Dan’s RAS centered on? When he’s paying attention to the girl (because he is not like that all the time, but that’s for another occasion, although I’ll make a point later), he does it strongly. He EXPERIENCES her, her lips, tits, hips, body curves, hair, amazing scent, the way she dressed FOR HIM, her smile, the way she behaves, her vibe… You get the fucking picture. He’s imagining her naked on his bed, and imagining how he would love to nail her from behind. And he has this inner knowing smile as this happens, he doesn’t have time to doubt himself. He is, what you would call, NIMBUSING.

The girl, obviously is already wet because this awesome, cool guy likes her for who she is and they have this fun between the two. And more importantly this guy is presenting himself, no routines, no game moves, things just happen. Full natural way.

As Dan enjoys the girl he would move things forward and do the right things because he has this purpose and intent behind. He has the true DEEP MOTIVATION.

For the “Awaken the Giant Within” guys, do you see where the pleasure and pain are? He sees no pain in this, only the instant pleasure.

Eliminating the internal barriers to access this full natural mindset. What is preventing you from massive and stupidly easy success?

Do a little imagination exercise. Do you know what your blueprint girl looks like? Picture her on your mind. Imagine you in a club, you see her, you start enjoying her. You approach her to enjoy her more. You enjoy her all the time and things are moving towards sex because you are the man. Look at yourself, do you imagine what your face would look like? Now, if you want imagine you and her having sex. Do this on your own risk, lol.

Why can’t we be like this all the time? You are the measure of your balls. To be like this all the time, you need to ultimately trust yourself and be your hero. Live up to your standards. There’s plenty of posts about this so I won’t extend. But remember, in the way you do anything, you do everything, as Manwhore said.

Remember the purpose of going out.

Why do you go out? Answer, quickly, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? I can guess a list of things you are thinking:

* For improving in/getting handled this area of my life.
* To show everyone how cool I think I am.
* If I fuck consistently a lot of 10s I would feel complete.
* I NEED to demonstrate my own value.

Well, there’s nothing wrong with those things, but if any of those things or any similar are your first motivation for going out you are missing the point to the sexworthy zone. And I want you here.

Anything that isn’t to ENJOY/HAVE FUN is totally wrong.

Repeat after me: Going out is meant to be fun. Write it where you can see it.

Your work ends, are you thinking I’ll go out so I can “game” and stop being a chode? No, flip the script. You go out because you want to chill and have some motherfucking fun, you’ve worked enough.

Having this mindset is a prerequisite for allowing yourself to enjoy.

This solves the screening/not judging issue

Recently, there have been some discussions in the forum about this whole thing. “How can I screen her and at the same time not judge her?”

When you allow yourself to fully enjoy, you become a natural screener. You are just that type of guy. HOW?

When your priority is enjoying you screen for what YOU really enjoy, based in your values. You just can’t focus on girls you don’t enjoy or in bad situations, you just automatically MOVE ON. Because your priority is to ENJOY, that’s why you went out of your house. Girls have to fit into your “enjoying pattern” to get your attention, they have to game you.

Do you judge her for not being the way you like? Fuck no, you don’t have time for that. Your priority is enjoying.

When I refer to your priority, I mean that you choose it EVERY FUCKING TIME on a moment by moment basis.

This is positively screening, you screen from a love for women foundation. This puts you in the have fun and in the “game” headspace at the same time.

Stories

Unknown girls start dancing for me because I’m just there watching and enjoying them.
Stop talking because I’m enjoying the girl and the girl starts talking and gaming me.
Girls DTFing me everywhere because I just project that energy.
Girls coming for more and escalating on me.
Friends helping me with the girl.
……….
……………

The mission

If you want to give this thing a chance. Do me a favour, try it for only ONE night, but do it 100%.

Go out one night with this mindset and report back (don’t think on the report, just in enjoying hehe).

I’m so excited for you.

P.S. Feel free to ask anything.