The Bizarreness is probably my favourite social tool and the first of an unlimited series of simple short blogs with useful social tips that you can apply instantly.

What is The Bizarreness, Iván?

The Bizarreness is basically bringing to the interaction something that is too weird to be not-funny and that is totally clear that you do it on purpose. It instantly makes everyone around start reacting to you, now you lead the interaction.


  • The more bizarre, the more you have to believe in it.
  • The more bizarre, the more fun it is.
  • The more bizarre, the more confused and reactive people become.
  • The more bizarre, the cooler you are.
  • The more bizarre, the more you lead.


Someone is trying to make fun of you, but in a friendly way (if not, the bizarre is to cut that person off):

Someone: “I think you are very silly, how can you not know that?”
YOU: “IME, the economy is going downfall, in 10 years we will be walking around like Tarzan.”
Someone (totally confused, now he or she is the one feeling silly): “What are you talking about?”
YOU: “Me Tarzan, you Cheeta.”

Now from there transition if you want to a normal conversation like before, the difference is that now, you are the one leading it. We were obviously not talking about economy first, it could be sports, films or anything.

You are chilling with your friends on a Saturday night:

Friend 1: “Have you studied for the exam we are having on Monday?
Friend 2: “No.”
Friend 3: “Me neither, I will have to study tomorrow, although I will be tired with all this party…”

Now it’s time to drop some out of context quote. My favourites are from The Simpsons, Family Guy, House or some rock song. Every starts laughing and stops thinking.

This same example would serve for when any conversation stalls and everybody is in silence, just drop a quote. One of my favourites, multi-purpose quotes is from Peter Griffin:
When you’re feeling down just go to Imagination Land! Where you fart when you burp, and you burp when you fart!”

Other uses

Another use of the Bizarreness is in the way you express yourself in social nets like facebook and things like that. Fill everything on your profile with Bizarreness. Also take bizarre photos with your friends, you will have fun a lot of fun with it.

You can also wear the Bizarreness. Take something that is fashionable, not weird itself, and make it bizarre. For example: funny t-shirts with texts and pics are a must. You should have several in your closet. Also, if someone laughs about something you are wearing, make what they are saying a reality and exaggerate it. Make it even more weird. What I do a lot of times is to say that they are right, it’s not cool and then take it off. The next thing is to put it on again in the most weird you know, when in doubt just put it the wrong side. Examples of this are a cap, glasses, shirts, trousers and shoes. Remember that the more bizarre the more you have to believe it is the right thing to do. If you do it like that you are the coolest one, if you don’t you are the weirdest. This is basically exaggerated weird self-deprecating humour that only a cool, smart dude would say.

One thing that helped me a lot was to realize that I was a weird dude. Then, I started to be proud of it and the Bizarreness was born. This is about having personality, showing that you are unique and you love you. Remember that the most important thing with the bizarre is that you have to express yourself, not try to impress people. What are you expressing? You express that you don’t give a damn what people think about you, that you are weird and you like it. No, like is not the word… love, yes, you love yourself and that what you are communicating.

Also, if you are like me, you could add sexual content in the interaction. With my friends and with girls I just have the habit of voicing my thought when it’s not a work conversation, so as a lot of my thoughts are sexual I just pop them out. Sexual Bizarreness is good because sex is taboo for a lot of people.

The Bizarreness is something that serves a lot of purposes. When do you bring the Bizarreness?

  • To change topics.
  • To get everyone out of thinking mode.
  • To have fun.
  • To be the one leading the interaction, if you can stay cool with bringing the bizarreness everyone else will be confused.
  • To show anyone else and yourself that you don’t care about making mistakes and eclipse mistakes you may commit later.
  • To show your uniqueness.
  • To get into social mode.

Use it in your next social interaction, be careful it may cause addiction.


Every single one of you, in terms of motivation fits in one of those groups. Sure, you can be both but you tend to be more of one than the other. To know which one you are in, just ask yourself ‘why do I go out?’.

OK, soundtrack:

Gamers will answer something like: I want to practise my routines and moves, I want to get better reactions. Maybe they say it in a subtler way, something like: ‘I want to improve my game’ ‘I want to make it consistent’ ‘I want to learn natural game’ and so on and so forth. There are some guys who actually have these goals when they go out but they don’t give a fuck, literally, if they achieve them or not. They set these goals because they like the game and want to stay motivated, but for most of you reading that is a sign of being a gamer.

OTOH, players love the game, simply. Not the moves, the logistics, the girls, the results… they just love the chase. Players (aka sexworthy men) are closers and have learned that the fun is in the chase. They don’t practise their game, they just play it. They don’t give a shit if they fail sometimes, they are men and take all the responsibility for their reality.

Gamers have game, these are the guys that you see who almost never get rejected and made the groups laugh, they may get a flakey number.

Players are those guys that sometimes you will laugh at how many times they get rejected, with this guys girls can’t play their games, this guys are the epitome of authenticity. They go hard with their intent, they rely on themselves, they may get rejected but that’s nothing for them. With players, when it’s on… it’s fucking on.

Gamers can turn a woman on emotionally, maybe they can manipulate a woman to game them, hoping that she will escalate, extract and jump on their dicks.

Players love the action, you just can’t control them. When a woman chooses to involve with a guy like this she can relax because she knows he’s taking the responsibility for him and her getting laid.

Gamers analyse every set and measure their results to see how they can improve their game, they think about interactions (A LOT). They put tons of energy on learning, forgetting why this is called a game.

Players usually don’t have to think about sets. This champ gets blown out and a second later you see him clawing a girl, smiling almost arrogantly. They don’t try to learn, they just play the game while they learn trough experience, joining the dots unconsciously, they know things intuitively. They understands the principle of consistency, not perfection. A player doesn’t mind if he gets blown 20 times in a row the same night, this changes nothing and he is still a high value guy, he know that he only needs one set to hook to get laid.

Gamers work a lot on their game, so much that they think this is enough.

Players pass the gaming part and start at the closing part. In the first seconds of the interaction he either gets blown out or he’s making out with the girl (or another hardcore form of escalation).

The internal value of a gamer depends on the quality of their game that night.

The player measures his success by his ability to close the deal, he does what he wants when he wants, he has his own rhythm. This guy understands that at the beginning of the night every man starts equal, that to quote the amazing Kimball “the difference comes not from ‘being good with girls,’ but from your ability to take responsibility for what happens around you”, that he actually wins for taking action.

You will see the gamer dude thinking about their next approach or what’s worst: thinking about their past approaches. He plays to not loose.

You will see the player playing, he wants to have the ball and go. This guys plays to win.

The first guy is so inside his head he doesn’t have fun and has to fake smiles and state. He may try to get instate to get attraction.

With the second nothing is fake, he’s 100% real and congruent, he has fun. He gets in state by playing the game, his state is unbreakable.

The gamer dood gets cool reactions, the player gets laid.

One is impression mode, the other is only expressing himself, his intent and core, he’s being the music. He goes out only for himself, he’s the star of the show.

Part Two of the Article: The “INSERT COIN” Phenomenon.

After some months of succesfull player nights in a row, getting insta make-outs everywhere which (at that time) for me was mind blowing and I felt like the pimp of da world. Ego trap came after, and that was the beggining of the Project Venom, which I hope you know about. Although I started taking responsibility, I fell in the gamer category, I started to work in my game. While before I was succesful with no game at all, now I was working on my game, no girl and very little successes.

Which made me change from one thing to the other? The real difference between gamers and players, the root was that as the great jlaix say in the Jeffy Show, the different comes from the meanings and bearings you choose.

As you may notice, the last two blog posts I made were about ‘enjoying’ and ‘passion’. That is, positive things. I think that the two most powerful tools in life for changing and creating anything are focus and linking instant positive feelings to something.

I might make a blog on this two things someday, although a lot of motivational authors talk about it in one way or another. I’ll just say something briefly.

1. You get what you focus on aka ‘the Law of Attraction’, although that seems very hairy fairy.
2. Even if you know something is going to cause you problems on the long-term you will do it if you know that provides you instant pleasure, and you will need a lot of will power to avoid doing it.

When I started doing approaches again through a lot of will power, not for fun at all, one of my best female friends made a joke. She said: “INSERT COIN pirirí 1, 2, 3, avance” (you know I’m Spanish so…). At first I didn’t realize that she could center myself in field with this.

I started thinking ‘I should link positive feelings with the most important thing, with what I have to implement. For me the most important thing at the momment was, and still is, taking responsibility for me an the girl getting laid. So I started to link fun to action. And the phrase came to me, I’m sure I read it here: THE FUN IS IN THE CHASE. A lot of people here are having trouble with being the prize and all that stuff. I’ll repeat it: THE FUN IS IN THE CHASE. Those words could change your life, don’t worry you will be chased when you have true abundance, but true abundance is constructed through action. Don’t act prize and cocky, just be authentic.

She kept doing this everytime I did this. Getting hugely blown out by turbos was again fun, thank you darling. Now, me and my friends go out to INSERT COIN. We maid the shift and have linked positive feelings and fun to the game and chasing girls. We are now, officialy players.

Do you wanna help me extend the INSERT COIN PHENOMENON world wide and join the Insert Coin Club. The rules are clear:

1. Shout INSERT COIN! and make as if you were inserting the coin on the girl.
2. Claw the girl.
3. Rapid kino escalation.
4. Have fun with it.
5. Repeat until getting laid.


I wanna add my little piece of value to this awesome Nation we have here. I want to talk about a trait that every natural I’ve seen has. This is the mindset I implemented this last weeks, and it’s the direct infield result of my Flawless Natural Living Plan.

I’m not an instructor and the RSD stuff are the real deal at teaching this stuff, I just want to share my OWN experiences.

I also have found that you don’t need to enjoy to get laid, if you are in a bad mood but you are used to go through the motions and have the confidence enough to push through it you still can get away with it. As they say, the strongest reality wins. But now that we are on the game, why don’t we make it fun from the start.

Let’s get to it.

Enjoying and the full natural way

See this? Tim talked in the FN program about this, about the “this is for me” phenomenon. He says that you should allow that purpose to fuel your approaches. I say, why don’t you use it to use fuel you from the open to the lay?

I can’t explain why but this mindset works for me, and I’m sure it will work for you. Basically, you should allow yourself to enjoy the girl in front of you, and every girl you see. Filling yourself up with the feminine energy around you.

I call this “the full natural way”. Think about the classic natural, the real deal, not the jerk that gets laid. I’m talking about the natural that girls close. He is getting laid consistently, he has abundance of women on his life, he’s sure of himself and carry himself like the star of the show. And more importantly, he doesn’t have to think to do this things, he can concentrate on his passions.

As he doesn’t need to think, he allows himself to enjoy the girl he’s with. This makes him moves things toward sex UNCONSCIOUSLY.

(From Spanish TV, don’t they look sexy?)

Not gaming

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not talking about another style of game. I’m talking about not game itself. Think about it. Amazing man meets amazing woman, things just lead toward the close. If this wasn’t like that, we wouldn’t survive as a species.

So if things are like that, and I really believe they are, this headspace is veeery, and I mean VERY, simple. Remember the Natural we talked about? We’ll just call him Dan for this time. (His real name is Iván, but don’t tell anyone) Now, seriously…

What is Dan’s RAS centered on? When he’s paying attention to the girl (because he is not like that all the time, but that’s for another occasion, although I’ll make a point later), he does it strongly. He EXPERIENCES her, her lips, tits, hips, body curves, hair, amazing scent, the way she dressed FOR HIM, her smile, the way she behaves, her vibe… You get the fucking picture. He’s imagining her naked on his bed, and imagining how he would love to nail her from behind. And he has this inner knowing smile as this happens, he doesn’t have time to doubt himself. He is, what you would call, NIMBUSING.

The girl, obviously is already wet because this awesome, cool guy likes her for who she is and they have this fun between the two. And more importantly this guy is presenting himself, no routines, no game moves, things just happen. Full natural way.

As Dan enjoys the girl he would move things forward and do the right things because he has this purpose and intent behind. He has the true DEEP MOTIVATION.

For the “Awaken the Giant Within” guys, do you see where the pleasure and pain are? He sees no pain in this, only the instant pleasure.

Eliminating the internal barriers to access this full natural mindset. What is preventing you from massive and stupidly easy success?

Do a little imagination exercise. Do you know what your blueprint girl looks like? Picture her on your mind. Imagine you in a club, you see her, you start enjoying her. You approach her to enjoy her more. You enjoy her all the time and things are moving towards sex because you are the man. Look at yourself, do you imagine what your face would look like? Now, if you want imagine you and her having sex. Do this on your own risk, lol.

Why can’t we be like this all the time? You are the measure of your balls. To be like this all the time, you need to ultimately trust yourself and be your hero. Live up to your standards. There’s plenty of posts about this so I won’t extend. But remember, in the way you do anything, you do everything, as Manwhore said.

Remember the purpose of going out.

Why do you go out? Answer, quickly, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? I can guess a list of things you are thinking:

* For improving in/getting handled this area of my life.
* To show everyone how cool I think I am.
* If I fuck consistently a lot of 10s I would feel complete.
* I NEED to demonstrate my own value.

Well, there’s nothing wrong with those things, but if any of those things or any similar are your first motivation for going out you are missing the point to the sexworthy zone. And I want you here.

Anything that isn’t to ENJOY/HAVE FUN is totally wrong.

Repeat after me: Going out is meant to be fun. Write it where you can see it.

Your work ends, are you thinking I’ll go out so I can “game” and stop being a chode? No, flip the script. You go out because you want to chill and have some motherfucking fun, you’ve worked enough.

Having this mindset is a prerequisite for allowing yourself to enjoy.

This solves the screening/not judging issue

Recently, there have been some discussions in the forum about this whole thing. “How can I screen her and at the same time not judge her?”

When you allow yourself to fully enjoy, you become a natural screener. You are just that type of guy. HOW?

When your priority is enjoying you screen for what YOU really enjoy, based in your values. You just can’t focus on girls you don’t enjoy or in bad situations, you just automatically MOVE ON. Because your priority is to ENJOY, that’s why you went out of your house. Girls have to fit into your “enjoying pattern” to get your attention, they have to game you.

Do you judge her for not being the way you like? Fuck no, you don’t have time for that. Your priority is enjoying.

When I refer to your priority, I mean that you choose it EVERY FUCKING TIME on a moment by moment basis.

This is positively screening, you screen from a love for women foundation. This puts you in the have fun and in the “game” headspace at the same time.


Unknown girls start dancing for me because I’m just there watching and enjoying them.
Stop talking because I’m enjoying the girl and the girl starts talking and gaming me.
Girls DTFing me everywhere because I just project that energy.
Girls coming for more and escalating on me.
Friends helping me with the girl.

The mission

If you want to give this thing a chance. Do me a favour, try it for only ONE night, but do it 100%.

Go out one night with this mindset and report back (don’t think on the report, just in enjoying hehe).

I’m so excited for you.

P.S. Feel free to ask anything.